Update and How We Got Engaged

So we are plugging along on all the paperwork. We had our health inspection and are going to have our fire inspection soon. We are also working on our introduction letter. So much to do, but it will be so worth it in the end.

So in a previous post I talked about how we met and everything. Well we had been dating for a few months and really getting to know each other. I really felt that she was the one to be sealed to for eternity. (In the LDS church we believe that marriages can be for not just here on earth, but can last into eternity.) Jenn’s birthday was coming up and I thought that would be the perfect time to propose.

As the time came closer Jenn kept bugging me about what I was going to get her for her birthday. She kept asking if it was jewelry. I was guessing that she probably knew what was going on. Anyway I had gone up to her house on the Sunday before her birthday and made up my mind that I was going to surprise her early doing part of what I was planning to do on her birthday. Right after Sacrament Meeting (our main church meeting) I asked her if she wanted to go for a ride. I drove her to the San Diego temple, but took the back route so she would not know where we were until the last minute. Since it was Sunday the temple was closed, but they had missionaries there giving tours of the temple grounds. My plan was to propose to her on a bench there, but wanted it to be a little more private. So we went out on the grass and I asked her to marry me right then. I was really nervous even though I knew what she was going to say.

On her birthday I went ahead and did everything else I had planned. I picked up dinner from Olive Garden and we went and ate our dinner on a picnic table. From there we went back to the temple and I gave her the ring I had picked out.

How We Met and Fell in Love

I will use this post to let everyone who is reading this or who will read this about how Jenn and I met.

Jenn grew up in New Hampshire. When Jenn graduated from high school (and these are her words) she wanted to move as far away from New Hampshire as possible. (No offense to those in New Hampshire) Her brother was living in San Diego at the time so that is where she ended up choosing to go to school. She was accepted to San Diego State University.

I was a Navy brat and had lived in 5 different cities before I graduated from High School. When my dad retired we were living in San Diego. That is where I graduated from High School and I went to the community college before serving a mission in Colorado. After returning home I finished up at the Grossmont Community College and transferred to San Diego State University.

Both of us attended and hung out at the LDS Institute of Religion at SDSU which is where we met. We got to be friends as we relaxed after classes at attended scripture study classes. We would also see each other at dances and other young adult activities. That is how we met.

In March 1996 LDS president and our prophet Gordon B Hickley was coming to San Diego and there was a fireside planned where he would be speaking. Some mutual friends of ours that were dating decided to plan a picnic lunch prior to the fireside. Jenn wanted to go, but did not want to go stag so she asked me if I wanted to join them. Yes, I know, she asked me on our first date. As the date of the fireside came closer everyone else except for Jenn and I flaked out on the idea. Jenn and I think that they set us up, but they never admitted to it.

I guess I was a little shy when it came to asking girls out, but this helped a little. A couple weeks later the young adult ward (congregation) that I attended was planning an activity to the San Diego Padres game. I asked Jenn (who was in a different young adult ward) if she wanted to go with me. Before I even realized it I had asked her out on a date. We had fun at the game and at other dates. We were almost inseparable from then on out and mostly still are.

It Is Coming Along

Both Jenn and I have been really motivated lately to get everything done so we can go on to the next step of this adoption process. It is something that we have thought about in the past, but never really followed through with. What do I think the difference is? I kind of think that this is the right time to do this and that the child or children that were meant to be a part of our family are now waiting for us to get everything done so they can come into our home and family.

We were really motivated about 13 years ago when our daughter Micki was in foster care after being removed from her birth mother’s care. We wrote to the judge that was over her case deciding about terminating the parental rights of her birth parents to tell him that if it he made the decision to terminate parental rights that we would be willing to be Micki’s parents. We were motivated then because we believed (and still do) that Micki was meant to be our daughter.

Both of us really feel the Lord’s influence in our decision to adopt. It is awesome to feel the Spirit’s guidance.

We Begin Our Journey

Well, yesterday we officially began our journey on the road to adding a member to our family through adoption. We met with our case manager at LDS Family Services. We had a nice drive out to Frederick, MD (about an hour and a half drive from our home). Micki wanted to listen to High School Musical 2 . . .  twice.  It was a beautiful day and a beautiful drive.

Our case worker gave us a new stack of paperwork to fill out including getting our fingerprints done for our criminal background checks. One of the things that she suggested is to get the word out to everyone that we want to adopt so we went with that and have created this blog to share our story and journey with anyone who will listen.

Right now our family consists of Sean, Jenn, Micki and our dog Zoey. We enjoy spending time together going for bike riding, camping in our pop up camper and laughing. Monday night is always pizza night at our house and if the weather is nice we walk to the pizza place to pick it up. Actually we love to walk everywhere together.

If you or someone you know are considering placing your child with an adoptive family please keep us in mind. We are ready for anything that the Lord has in store for us.